By Sheryl Kraft
Welcome to my blog - it's nice to see you here! I've decided to open my very first post with my thoughts on a term that is so common to the boomer generation... Midlife Crisis. It makes me wonder...
Why do these two words - Midlife and Crisis - have to go together? The term even has a place in Webster's Dictionary. Do you mean to tell me that 78 million of us (that's how many people were born during the post-World War II population boom) are making changes in our lives because of CRISIS?
(After reaching for my nearby magnifying glass - more on that in another post), I read: "A period of emotional turmoil in middle age characterized esp. by a strong desire for change."
Change is one thing. Change is necessary for growth, I think. Change is good - and so is desire. But turmoil... why this word? Does change have to be fueled by turmoil? Or is this only when it refers to changes made in midlife?
I know lots of people who have made changes around this time. Why not? It's a time of reflection, of having lived long enough to be able to look back upon our mistakes/desires unfulfilled/dreams - and make them happen now. It's a time when we'd most likely to be most open to changes. Why? The distraction of raising children might be behind us. Feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy have finally dissipated enough to give us a forward momentum. Experience has paved the way for us to read our inner compass and head in the right direction (or even a different one). Fear takes a backseat to desire, perhaps fueled by knowing that it's now or never.
The actual change that comes about is usually a positive step toward something better, or at the very least, a step to self-discovery that we might not have ever experienced before.
Why not call it... Midlife Change. Or Midlife Alteration. Or Midlife Modification. I like those words much better.
What kinds of changes has midlife brought about in you? Have you made any changes - or might be contemplating any major changes - that have never occurred to you before now?
Stay tuned for future blog posts, which will talk about all the changes that occur in midlife... minus the word "Crisis".